NOTES
The Introduction
vi vulgarity and materialism of modernity through rigor and beauty: Cultural anthropologist Sherry Ortner’s book, Life and Death on Mt. Everest (2001) was published by Princeton University Press. Life and Death on Mt. Everest is a hallmark text in the field of cultural anthropology.
vii saturating your observations with your own subjectivity: Quote is from page 89 of communication scholar Carolyn Ellis’s book The Ethnographic I (2003), published by AltaMira Press.
vii accommodates mess and chaos, uncertainty and emotion: From the book Autoethnography: Understanding Qualitative Research (2014) written by Tony E. Adams, Stacy Holman Jones and Carolyn Ellis and published by Oxford University Press.
vii engage with the local community through interviews and reporting: A comprehensive list of all my journalistic publications can be found on https://muckrack.com/jacquelineknirnschild/articles.
vii American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus: Sociologist Lisa Wade’s book (2017) was published by W. W. Norton & Company.
viii I didn’t know if this was empathy or theft: Quote is from the titular essay of Leslie Jamison’s collection The Empathy Exams (2014), which was published by Graywolf Press. This collection won the Graywolf Press Nonfiction Prize in 2014.
ix coaxed chorus like a bushfire: Quote is from Leslie Jamison’s article, “Leslie Jamison: confessional writing is not self-indulgent,” published in The Guardian on July 5, 2014.
ix It investigates its own seams. It traces what leaks: Quote is from Leslie Jamison’s introduction to The Best American Essays of 2017, which was published by Best American Paper. This quote can be found on page xviii of the book.
ix The Purity Myth: How America’s Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women: Feminist writer Jessica Valenti’s book (2009) was published by Seal Press.
ix Grand Unified Theory of Female Pain: This Leslie Jamison essay was a part of her 2014 collection, The Empathy Exams.
ix The Happiness Project: Gretchen Rubin’s book (2012) was published by HarperCollins.
ix Bird by Bird: Anne Lamott’s book (2014) was published by Random House.
ix Assassination Vacation: Sarah Vowell’s book (2006) was published by Simon & Schuster.
x The Rise of the Valkyries: *Seyward Darby’s article was published in the September 2017 issue of *Harper’s Magazine.
x The Dark Power of Fraternities: Caitlin Flanagan’s article was published in the March 2014 issue of The Atlantic
x Bee-Brained: Vauhini Vara’s article was published in the May 2017 issue of Harper’s Magazine.
x Sim Life: Leslie Jamison’s essay was published in the December 2017 issue of The Atlantic.
x What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us: Michael Pollan’s book (2018) was published by Penguin Press.
xi recreate the process of learning that’s behind the book: This quote is from the Longform Podcast’s interview with Michael Pollan in episode #347, which first aired on June 12, 2019.
xi The Photographs That Make Me Feel Less Alone: Leslie Jamison’s essay was published in the December 2019 issue of The Atlantic.
xi wanted her to be and not to be: This quote is from Joan Didion’s 1966 essay, “Where the Kissing Never Stops,” which was published in her collection Slouching Toward Bethlehem (1968).
xii Behind the Beautiful Forevers: Katherine Boo’s book (2014) was published by Random House. Behind the Beautiful Forevers won The National Book Award, and earned Boo a Pulitzer Prize for Public Service and the MacArthur “Genius” Grant.
xii Lost Cat: Mary Gaitskill’s essay was published in Granta 107 on May 2, 2019. The essay is also featured in her collection, Somebody with a Little Hammer: Essays (2017), which was published by Pantheon.
xii The Reckonings: Lacy Johnson’s essay collection (2014) was published by Scribner.
xii In your eyes, you, have never been completely whole: This quote is from Bassey Ikpi’s essay “Yaka,” which is is a part of her collection I’m Telling the Truth, But I’m Lying (2019), published by Harper Perennial. The quote is from page 33 of the book.
xii You’re not a monster. You’re not innocent: This quote is from Kiese Laymon’s essay “You Are The Second Person,” which was published in Guernica on June 17, 2013. This essay is also a part of Laymon’s collection How to Slowly Kill Yourself and Others in America (2013), which was published by Agate Bolden.
xiii Great with Child: Letters to a Young Mother: Beth Ann Fennelly’s book (2006) was published by W. W. Norton & Company.
xiii Eat, Pray, Love: Elizabeth Gilbert’s book (2007) was published by Riverhead Books.
xiv Kate Julian: Julian wrote the article, “Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex?”which was published in the December 2018 issue of The Atlantic.
xv few sentences come out right the first time, or even the third time: This quote is from the 30th Anniversary Edition of William Zinsser’s class book On Writing Well (2016), which was published by Harper Perennial. The first edition was published in 1986.
xv Now keep going: John McPhee’s article, “Writing By Omission” was published in The New Yorker on September 7, 2015.
xv Another word for this is revision: This quote is also from Leslie Jamison’s introduction to The Best American Essays of 2017, page xviii.
xvi sift until I found a way to free the memory: This quote is from Kiese Laymon’s memoir Heavy: An American Memoir (2018), which was published by Scribner. Heavy won the Andrew Carnegie Medal for Excellence in Nonfiction and was one of The New York Times Notable Books of 2018.
The Red Swimsuit
2 photographs help people take possession of a space in which they are insecure: This quote is from page 22 of writer Susan Sontag’s essay collection On Photography (1977), which was published by Penguin.
3 When I think back on this part of my life, I imagine it like an Edith Wharton book: Edith Wharton (1862-1937) was an American writer who drew upon her insider’s knowledge of the New York City upper class to portray the lives of the Gilded Age.
3 metropolitan Perth during the city’s mining boom of the early 2000s: A journalist in 1870 described Perth as a “quiet little town of some 3,000 inhabitants spread out in straggling allotments down to the water’s edge.” Then, in the late 19th century, the discovery of gold led to population and mining booms. By 1984, Perth became the fourth-most-populous city in Australia. And in the early 2000s, mining companies from around the world, such as Cliffs. Natural Resources, where my dad works, sent teams into Perth to extract more resources. From 2006 to 2011, the population grew over 14% to exceed over 1.7 million.
3 Lisi Harrison’s The Clique series: This is a young adult novel series, published from 2004 to 2012, about five girls known as the Pretty Committee, which is the popular clique at the fictional, all-girls middle school, Octavian Country Day in Westchester, New York. A new girl named Claire moves to Westchester and is initially considered an outcast due to her family’s financial situation. Claire eventually earns membership into the Pretty Committee.
3 they’re so wild because they’re all probably descendants of convicts: Indigenous Australians inhabited the Perth area for at least 38,000 years until, in 1829, British Captain James Stirling arrived in his ship, the HMS Success and named the colony after Perthshire, Scotland. Then, around 1850, the British Empire shipped thousands of convicts to the newly designated penal colony in order to provide labor to the farmers and businesspeople in Western Australia. The majority of these convicts were charged with petty crimes, like thievery.
9 touted my magazines and Mean Girls DVD along with me for the sleepover: Mean Girls is a 2004 American teen comedy movie starring Lindsay Lohan, which was partially based on Rosalind Wiseman’s 2002 non-fiction self-help book, Queen Bees and Wannabees. Lohan plays sixteen-year-old homeschooled Cady, who returns to the U.S. after spending most of her life in Africa with her zoologist parents. Cady has trouble fitting into North Shore High but then joins the most popular clique, “The Plastics.”
10 no guide for girls to know how to respond to the way others were behaving and treating them: This quote is from Nancy Jo Sales’s book American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers (2016), published by Vintage, page 371.
11 It is less mortifying to believe one’s self unpopular than insignificant: This quote is from Edith Wharton’s 1905 novel The House of Mirth, page 122. The novel follows Lily Bart, a wellborn but penniless single woman in New York City’s high society during the turn of the last century. Bart goes through a two-year social descent from privilege to a lonely existence on the fringes of society.
13 nudes that wind up on online “slut pages” available for boys to rate and judge: This quote is from page 371 of American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers, published.
13 trying to feel comfortable in your changing body, and not always succeeding: This quote is from page 371 of American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers.
13 smartphones are ruining a generation: All of the included information from psychologist Jean M. Twenge comes from her article in the September 2017 issue of The Atlantic, titled Have Smartphones Destroyed a Generation? For more information, check out Twenge’s 2017 book iGen: Why Today’s Super-Connected Kids Are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy—and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood.
Suburbia & Hollywood Stardom
15 the four-story “Clout House” in Los Angeles: The tour of the “Clout House” and all of the quotes from Alissa in this paragraph were found in YouTuber, Shane Dawson’s video, “Ex Girlfriend of Jake Paul,” uploaded on October 16, 2018.
15 The house’s rent is 34,900 per month: The property details of the house were found on Realtor.com for 6447 Weidlake Dr, Los Angeles, CA 90068.
15 a staircase full of Louis Vuitton purses: All of these posts were found on Alissa’s Instagram account @alissaviolet.
15 asks him if she looks good: This clip was found at the end of Alissa Violet’s YouTube video “REUNITING WITH TESSA,” uploaded on October 28, 2018
15 going shopping while cuffed to her friend’s wrist: This clip was found at the beginning of Alissa Violet’s YouTube video “REUNITING WITH TESSA,” uploaded on October 28, 2018.
16 taking shots on the helicopter: This quote was taken from Alissa Violet’s YouTube video,“COACHELLA (Things Got Crazy), uploaded on April 27, 2019.
16 *some of my favorite designers at 90% off: *This quote was taken from Alissa Violet’s YouTube video, “My Everyday Makeup Routine,” uploaded on August 3, 2019.
16 thumbnail of Alissa leaning in to kiss a female friend: This thumbnail is from Alissa Violet’s YouTube video, “BEST FRIEND CHALLENGE (ft. RiceGum, FaZe Banks, Chantel Jeffries),” uploaded on August 15, 2017.
16 two white, blonde sorority girls, also document their lives on YouTube: The Daily Mississippian reported on these young women in the article, “Students document their lives at Ole Miss on YouTube,” which was written by Maddie McGee and published on September 27, 2018.
16 drag crabby Charlie the unicorn to Candy Mountain: This video, “Charlie the Unicorn” was uploaded to YouTube by FilmCow on January 10, 2008.
16 fictional brace-faced Fred Figglehorn: This video, “Fred on Halloween” was uploaded to YouTube by FRED on April 30, 2008.
17 we can’t, cause that’s fuckin’ stupid: Kingsley took a long break from YouTube and deleted all of his old videos from the early 2010s but I have a vivid memory of this quote because it made me laugh so much.
17 it’s the best thing I’ve ever come up with: This Jenna Marbles video, “How to Avoid Talking to People You Don’t Want To Talk To” was uploaded on February 15, 2011.
17 under the age of 32 will not subscribe to a pay TV service: This statistic was found on Google’s study, “The latest video trends: Where your audience is watching,” published in April 2016 by Celie O’Neil-Hart and Howard Blumenstein.
18 SouthPark Mall in Strongsville with her friend to shop for a commencement dress: This anecdote and all of the quotes from Alissa were found in her YouTube video, “What you’ve been waitin for,” uploaded on June 9, 2017.
18 FUCK your chicken strips: This vine, “Fuck Your Chicken Strips.” can be found on YouTube, uploaded by Top Best Vines on May 6, 2014.
19 Logan’s early vines include: All of these vines can be found in the YouTube video,“Funny Logan Paul Vines (W/Titles) Logan Paul Vine Compilation 2019” uploaded by Vine Time on January 7, 2019.
19 made dumb and dumber into reality: This quote was found on Quora.com under the feed,“What is the difference between Jake Paul and Logan Paul?” Sarang Prajapati wrote on April 7, 2018 “They both made dumb and dumber into reality.”
20 allegedly, they were already making more money than their parents: All of the biographical information on the Paul brothers was found in YouTube video, “The Story of How Logan Paul. Became Famous,” uploaded by TheTalko on January 14, 2018.
20 a neighbor said in an interview with KTLA5: All of this reporting was found in KTLA5’s news article, “In Beverly Grove, Social Media Star Jake Paul’s Antics Stir Up the Neighborhood” written by Chris Wolfe and published on July 17, 2017.
20 shoved raw fish and squid in the faces of people walking by: This clip can be found in YouTube video “Logan Paul Being Massively Disrespectful in Japan” uploaded by YouTuber News on January 5, 2018.
20 zooming in on the body and then showing his awestruck reaction: The clips of the dead body have been deleted but new coverage of the controversy can be found in YouTube video,“YouTube star under fire for video of apparent suicide victim” uploaded by ABC News on January 2, 2018.
21 I would do anything for him, that’s why I signed a contract for five years: All of Alissa’s quotes in this paragraph can be found in her YouTube video, “What you’ve been waitin for,” uploaded on June 9, 2017.
21 social media fraternity: This term was taken from J-14’s article, “Break It Down: What Is Team 10? Here’s The Deal With Jake Paul’s Empire of Social Media Stars” written by Brie Hiramine and published on September 27, 2018.
21 pretended to date and sold #Jalissa t-shirts with cartoon versions of themselves kissing: This information can be found in Shane Dawson’s YouTube video, “Ex Girlfriend of Jake Paul,” which was uploaded on October 16, 2018.
| 22 Jake chases the Easter bunny away: These Alissa and Jake vines can be found in YouTube video, “Funny Alissa Violet and Jake Paul Vine Compilation | Funny Vines 2017,” uploaded by Funny Vines on October 22, 2017. |
22 does this dildo come in a bigger size: Alissa Violet Vines can be found in YouTube video, “Alissa Violet Vine compilation – Funny Alissa Violet Vines & Instagram Videos – Best Viners,” uploaded by Best Viners on December 5, 2017.
22 I was just a pawn in their game: All of the quotes and information in this paragraph can be found in Shane Dawson’s YouTube video, “Ex Girlfriend of Jake Paul,” uploaded on October 16, 2018.
22 Every guest you had over had to be approved by Jake: From Alissa Violet’s YouTube video, “What you’ve been waitin for,” uploaded on June 9, 2017.
23 couldn’t manage her own money: From Shane Dawson’s YouTube video, “Ex Girlfriend of Jake Paul,” uploaded on October 16, 2018.
23 I’m at where I am because of him: From Alissa Violet’s YouTube video, “What you’ve been waitin for,” uploaded on June 9, 2017.
23 Panera is your home: Lyrics found in Jake Paul’s YouTube video, “Jake Paul – It’s Everyday Bro (Song) feat. Team 10 (Official Music Video),” uploaded on May 30, 2017.
23 now she in the Logang and you know she on my team: Lyrics found in Logan Paul’s YouTube video, “FULL SONG: The Fall Of Jake Paul (Official Video) FEAT. Why Don’t We,” uploaded on July 9, 2017.
23 Alissa Violet’s net worth is estimated at $8 million: The net worth of Alissa Violet and the net worth of Jake Paul were both found on WealthyPersons.com, which I know is not the most accurate source, but I was unable to find a more reliable source.
24 distinctly possible to stay too long at the Fair: This quote is from Joan Didion’s 1961 essay “Goodbye to All That,” which can be found in her essay collection, Slouching Toward Bethlehem (1968), on page 236.
25 Infamous mirror pic: This photo was uploaded to Twitter by @savmontano on November 29, 2013.
25 Last night in a pic: This photo was uploaded to Twitter by @savmontano on May 3, 2014.
26 writes that there are two types of celebrities: All Joshua Gamson quotes come from “The Unwatched Life is Not Worth Living: The Elevation of the Ordinary Celebrity Culture” published in Vol. 126, No. 4, Special Topic: Celebrity, Fame, Notoriety (October 2011) of PMLA, the journal of the Modern Language Association of America, pages 1061 – 1069.
26 stars in his or her own life movie: Quote is from Neal Gabler’s Toward a New Definition of Celebrity (2001) published by Los Angeles: Normal Lear Center, U of Southern California Annenberg School of Communication.
26 more intimate, relatable and authentic than traditional celebrities: More information can be found in The Guardian’s article, “Why are YouTube stars so popular?” written by Stuart Dredge and published on February 3, 2016
26 candid sense of humor, lack of filters and risk-taking spirit: Quote is from Variety article,“Survey: YouTube Stars More Popular Than Mainstream Celebs Among U.S. Teens” by Susanne Ault and published on August 5, 2014.
26 the unwatched life is invalid, insufficient and even not worth living: All Joshua Gamson quotes come from “The Unwatched Life is Not Worth Living: The Elevation of the Ordinary Celebrity Culture” published in Vol. 126, No. 4, Special Topic: Celebrity, Fame, Notoriety (October 2011) of PMLA, the journal of the Modern Language Association of America, pages 1061 – 1069.
27 They come in multiple camera angles with all the boring parts spliced out: Quotes from NPR’s Hidden Brain Podcast episode “Close Enough: The Lure Of Living Through Others,” which first aired on February 11, 2019.
27 aspire toward a career a YouTuber rather than an astronaut: Toy production firm Lego surveyed 3,000 children between the ages of eight and 12 from the U.S., the U.K. and China and almost a third of the kids said they wanted to be a YouTuber when they grew up, while 11% said they wanted to be an astronaut. More information can be found in CNBC article, “Kids now dream of being professional YouTubers rather than astronauts, study finds” published on July 19, 2019.
28 So that we can boost our way up: All GAM Girl quotes are from their YouTube video,“SLIME CHALLENGE” uploaded on May 29, 2018.
29 Those with the capital are still the ones who determine the value of a celebrity: All Joshua Gamson quotes come from “The Unwatched Life is Not Worth Living: The Elevation of the Ordinary Celebrity Culture” published in Vol. 126, No. 4, Special Topic: Celebrity, Fame, Notoriety (2011) of PMLA, the journal of the Modern Language Association of America, pages 1061 – 1069.
29 Silicon Valley is a male-dominated culture: Quote is from page 11 of Nancy Jo Sales’s book American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers.
30 It’s foreign territory that I’ve never seen before: All Keemstar quotes are from Shane Dawson’s YouTube video, “Ex Girlfriend of Jake Paul,” which was uploaded on October 16, 2018.
A Record of the World as She Sees It
32 joint photography exhibit with her husband: The exhibit, Two Lives in Photography, was the University of Mississippi Museum from September 17, 2019 to February 15, 2020.
32 finding poetry in this slow, languorous countyscape: This quote is from Grace Glueck’s New York Times article, “ART IN REVIEW; Maude Schuyler Clay,” published on June 30, 2000.
32 I had written a review of the book: The review I wrote of Mississippi is titled,“Mississippi: Poems by Ann Fisher-Wirth with Photographs by Maude Schuyler Clay,” and was published in online southern arts magazine Burnaway on June 11, 2018. Maude would send photos to Ann and then Ann wrote poems that told the stories of the voices she imagined in the 47 images.
34 personal reflection informs historical document in perfect combination: This quote was found on Maude Schuyler Clay’s website (www.maudeclay.com). On the website, the quote’s attributed to Black and White Magazine but I wasn’t able to find the magazine article online, so I assume it’s only in print.
34 allegedly flirting with a white woman: According to History.com, Carolyn Bryant, the white woman working the counter at Bryant Grocery Store in Money, Mississippi, accused 14-year-old Emmett Till of having grabbed her, made lewd advanced and wolf-whistled at her as he sauntered out, when witnesses report that he had actually just bought some candy and said “Bye, baby” to the woman. Four days later, on August 28, 1955, Bryant’s husband and brother beat Emmett to death, gouged out his eye, shot him in the head and threw his body, tied to a cottongin fan with barbed wire, into the river. Three days later, the corpse was recovered. It was so disfigured that Till was only identified by his initialed ring. Till’s mother requested the body to be sent back to Chicago and held an open casket funeral so the world could see this atrocious act of racism. On September 23, the all-white jury deliberated for less than an hour before issuing a verdict of “not guilty,” claiming that they believed the state had failed to prove the identity of the body. In 2017, Carolyn Bryant admitted that Till had never touched, threatened or harassed her.
36 in front of a shiny red car, blue skies and tree branches: This photo is titled Jasper and Lucille and Anna and it is a Color Archival Print of 14 x 14 inches. This photo can be viewed on TheDoGoodFund.org.
39 her cousin, William Eggleston, practiced color photography: William Eggleston, born in 1939 in Memphis, is famous for legitimizing color photography as an artistic medium. His exhibition, The Beautiful Mysterious: The Extraordinary Gaze of William Eggleston, was at the University of Mississippi Museum in the fall of 2016, when I was a freshman.
39 photographer and painter Randy Hayes’s exhibit: The article I wrote about Randy Hayes is titled, “Life through the lens of Randy Hayes” and was published in Number: Inc February 2018. Randy Hayes’s exhibition, Unwritten Memoir, was at the University of Mississippi Museum in the fall of 2017, when I was a sophomore.
41 Mississippi History: Maude Schuyler Clay’s book (2015) was published by Steidl.
42 a photo of Langdon Clay holding a beer glass sell for $1,250: This photo, “Langdon, Rooftop Glass” can be purchased on JacksonFineArt.com.
43 keep on doing what we do: Making and consuming art: These quotes are from Michael Chabon’s essay “What’s the Point?” published in The Paris Review on September 23, 2019.
43 involves making an uneasy truce with that reduction: Quotes is from Leslie Jamison’s essay “Maximum Exposure,” which can be found in her collection, Make It Scream, Make It Burn (2019) on pages 124 to 152. This particular quote is on page 148.
44 there’s more, there’s more, there’s more: Page 148 of Make It Scream, Make It Burn.
44 that this woman existed, that her life mattered: Page 140 of Make It Scream, Make It Burn.
44 moralizing arguments about inequality or guilt: Pages 136-137 of Make It Scream, Make It Burn.
45 vectors of emotion churning between ordinary moments: Page 152 of Make It Scream, Make It Burn.
45 mirroring the way they would elect to be seen: Page 147 of Make It Scream, Make It Burn.
46 the strangest ruts and crevices: All quotes from Leslie Jamison on Gary Winogrand are from her article in The Atlantic, “The Photographs That Made Me Feel Less Alone,” published in the December 2019 issue.
48 Charlie Buckley painting of a field of sunflowers with a warm soft purple sky: Charlie Buckley is a Tupelo-based painter who does mostly colorful landscapes. I’ve written two articles about him: “Local artist manipulates pictures to recreate Mississippi landscapes, architecture” published in the Daily Mississippian on October 25, 2017, and “Charlie Buckley’s Paintings Embody the Spirit of Oxford,” published in Sharp Oxford on April 27, 2018.
Reckoning with Your Barbie Savior
50 Children’s Welfare Home in Bawjiase: The documentary expose on the Countryside Children’s Welfare Home can be found on YouTube. The documentary, titled “CAREless” was produced and uploaded by investigative journalist Anas Aremeyaw Anas on February 6, 2015.
52 a new government initiative to return children to their families: The Care Reform Initiative was launched in 2006 as a joint venture between the Department of Social Welfare, OAfrica, UNICEF and other children protection agencies in. Ghana. The goal of CRI is to“establish a more consistent and stable approach to caring for vulnerable children in Ghana so that each child will be assured of a permanent home in a supportive and loving family.” More information can be found on ovcghana.org.
54 the world’s best range of affordable programs: IVHQ was founded by New Zealander Dan Radcliffe in 2007. In 2006, upon completing a master’s degree in Finance and Management from the University of Otago in New Zealand, Dan Radcliffe began work at a corporate company, but just three days in, he quit his job because he realized he would never be happy in the corporate financial world. Dan saved up money and then backpacked and volunteered in Kenya. Although Dan loved the experience of volunteering in Kenya, he was disillusioned with the large disparity between what he had paid, and the actual cost of the volunteer trip. So, while in Nairobi, Dan began meeting with potential local partner organizations and in 2007, he took a loan out to register International Volunteer HQ, which, according to their website, has since grown into “the world’s premier volunteer travel organization.” IVHQ has proudly supported 100,000 volunteers abroad since 2007 and strives to “provide trips that are responsible, high quality and affordable.”
IVHQ achieved recognition as a Certified B Corporation in 2015, meaning it joined the ranks of ethical businesses, like Kickstarter and Etsy. “Certified B Corporations are businesses that meet the highest standards of verified social and environmental performance, public transparency, and legal accountability to balance profit and purpose,” the website reads. And IVHQ founder Dan Radcliffe said, “it’s no longer good enough for businesses to think about their success solely in terms of financial performance.” IVHQ essentially serves as a third-party liaison that connects volunteers with local Ghanaian organizations. After the arrival orientation in Accra, IVHQ dropped me off at my host site, which was run entirely by Ghanaian people and I never saw IVHQ again during my first two-month stay. But without IVHQ, there’d been no way I ever would’ve found out about The Potter’s Village.
60 there is a very small chance we are ever going to meet again: The full caption can be found on the @BarbieSavior Instagram post uploaded on March 22, 2018.
60 place-based analysis of the particularities of the volunteer tourism experience: The scholarly article I reference about the Barbie Savior was written by Stephen Wearing, Mary Mostafanezhad, Nha Nguyen, Truc Ha Thanh Nguyen & Matthew McDonald, and is titled, “Poor children on Tinder and their Barbie Saviours: towards a feminist political economy of volunteer tourism.” It was published on July 31, 2018 in the Journal of Leisure Studies, volume 37, issue 5, pages 500-514.
61 long-term partnership, justice and structural change: Quotes from Andrea Freidus can be found in her article, “Volunteer tourism: what’s wrong with it and how it can be changed,” which was published in The Conversation on November 8, 2017.
62 lasting negative effects on children’s psychological development: A few studies which show the consequences of institutional orphanage care include: JJ Sigal, JC Perry, M Rossignol and MC Ouitmet (2003) “Unwanted infants: psychological and physical consequences of inadequate orphanage care 50 years later” published in the American Journal of Orthopsychiatry Volume 73, Issue 1, pages 3-12. And V Makame, C Ani and S Grantham-McGregor’s“Psychological well-being of orphans in Dar El Salaam, Tanzania” published on January 2, 2002 in Acta Paediatrica, volume 91, issue 4, pages 459-465.
62 don’t have time to prioritize play, socialization or education: Richter, L (2003) “Poverty, underdevelopment, and infant mental health.” Journal of Paediatrics and Child Health volume 39, issue 4, pages 243-248.
62 improved institutionalized children’s motor skills, cognitive and social functioning: V. Tanega, S. Sriram, R.S. Beri, V. Sreenivas, R. Aggarwal, R. Kaur (2002) “Not by bread alone: impact of a structured 90-minute play session on development of children in an orphanage” published in Child: Care, Health and Development, volume 28, issue 1, pages 95-100.
62 caregivers could serve as important motivators for orphans’ educational goals: Joanna Ellen Bettmann, Jamie M. Moretensen, Kofi O. Akuoko & Callie A. Tatum (2017) “Orphanage Staff’s Perceptions of Children’s Psycho-social Needs” published in Children & Society volume 31, issue 1, pages 37-49.
69 only five of which were actually registered: Department of Social Welfare, Accra, Ghana (2008) The Care Reform Initiative available at ovcghana.org.
69 shut down because they do not meet the requirements: *“Social Welfare closes down 48 children’s homes” published on March 16, 2014 on *CITI FM Online.
69 the checklist social workers are meant to use when inspecting: “Annex A: Inspection Checklist on National Standards for Residential Homes,” which can be found on www.ovcghana.org/publications_press.html.
70 children raised in orphanages have immense difficulty finding employment: Kwabena Frimpong-Manso (2018) “Building and utilizing resilience: The challenges and coping mechanisms of care leavers in Ghana” published in the Children and Youth Services Review, volume 87, pages 52-59.
70 another study about children in orphanages who have been reunited with their families: Kwabena Frimpong-Manso, Abraham Gyimah Bugyei (2019) “The Challenges Facing Children Reunified With Their Families From an Orphanage in Ghana” published in Children & Society, volume 33, issue 4, pages. 363-376.
71 over the past decade, Ghana has been invaded by voluntourists: Arku Jasmine “Ghana attractive to voluntourists” published in the Daily Graphic on June 19, 2013.
71 the white man and woman have come to help the children: This quote from a Child Protection Specialist at UNICEF Ghana was found in the document “Collected viewpoints on international volunteer in residential care centres, Country focus: Ghana,” which can be accessed on www.ovcghana.org/international_volunteering.html
71 less than 30 percent of donated money to orphanages actually goes to childcare: Statistic found in article “Protecting children from orphan-dealers” published in The New Humanitarian on May 27, 2009.
71 made provisions to safeguard against harmful volunteerism: The Republic of Ghana Care Reform Initiative (CRI) “National Standards for Residential Homes for Children in Ghana.” Can be found on ovcghana.org/publications_press.html
71 NGOs in Ghana are required to have a minimum of two directors: John Kwasi Adjei“Corporate Governance among Ghanaian NGOs” published on GhanaWeb, April 18, 2015.
Wanted: Someone with Whom to Simply Pass the Days
75 *intensive summer language program at Shanghai University: *This intensive program is run by the University of Mississippi’s Chinese Language Flagship Program, which is national initiative by the U.S. government to increase proficiency in critical languages. I was a part of the Flagship program for two and a half years.
76 Shanghai has the lowest marriage rate in the country: In 2018, the Chinese Ministry of Civil Affairs reported that Shanghai’s marriage rate was 4.4 people out of every 1,000 people. More information can be found in China Daily’s article “Marriage rate in China hits lowest on record” published on March 21, 2019.
76 women no longer rely on husbands financially: More information on China’s decreased marriage rate can be found in NPR’s article, “China’s Marriage Rate Plummets As Women Choose To Stay Single Longer,” written by Rob Schmitz and published on July 31, 2018.
76 escort services to bring home during Chinese New Year: This information can be found in Al Jazeera’s YouTube video, “Single in China? Rent A Fake Boyfriend,” uploaded on September 6, 2016.
79 opposition to a presumably backward, mysterious, and exotic East: Edward Said was a literature professor, public intellectual, cultural critic and founder of postcolonial studies. He wrote the book Orientalism (1978), which transformed academic discourse.
82 *compares Chinese dating corners to online dating apps: *These quotes were found in The Diplomat’s article, “Finding Love in China’s Marriage Markets,” written by Layne Vandenberg and published on November 27, 2018.
82 providing parents with a space to socialize and do what parents love most: These quotes were found in The Hutong School’s blog post, “The Marriage Market in Shanghai,” written by Alexis Quevedo and published on March 8, 2018.
84 interests, communication skills, and of comparable intelligence: This research was found in the book The New Psychology of Love (2006), which is a collection of perspectives on love from various leading scholars in the field, edited by. Robert J. Sternberg and Karin Weis.
84 they start cold and heat up over time as the couple grows: This information was found in The New York Times article “Modern Lessons From Arranged Marriages,” written by Ji Yun Lee and published on January 18, 2013.
85 In the past thirty years, there had been four main studies conducted in China: “Love Matches and Arranged Marriages: A Chinese Replication” (1990) by Xu Xiaohe and Martin King Whyte, published in the Journal of Marriage and Family Volume 52, No. 3, pages 709-722.
Turkey: “What Is the Impact of Choosing One’s Spouse on Marital Satisfaction of Wives and Husbands? The Case of Arranged and Self-Choice Turkish Marriages” (2019) by E. Olcay Imamoglu, Mentalla Ads and Carol C. Weisfeld, published in the Journal of Family Issues Volume 40, No. 10, pages 1270-1298.
The U.S.: “Relationship Outcomes in Indian-American Love-Based and Arranged Marriage” (June 2012) by Pamela C. Regan, Saloni Lakhanpal and Carlos Anguiano, published in Psychology Reports Volume 110, Issue 3, pages 915-924.
India: “Marriage Satisfaction and Wellness in India and the United States: A Preliminary Comparison of Arranged Marriages and Marriages of Choice” (Spring 2005) by Jane E. Myers, Jayamala Madathil and Lynne R. Tingle, published in the Journal of Counseling & Development Volume 83, Issue 2, pages 183-190.
85 energy and money on a first date: All of the Helen Fisher quotes come from The New York Times article, “Should We All Take the Slow Road to Love?” by Tara Parker-Pope, published on July 2, 2019.
86 what’s your credit score: Quote is from The New York Times article, “Should We All Take the Slow Road to Love?” by Tara Parker-Pope, published on July 2, 2019.